random marriage thoughts

     Prince Charming and I are very committed to our marriage. We take the vows that we vowed before God and everyone VERY seriously. Eventually, he plans to become a marriage and family counselor. This means that we talk about marriage a lot. We listen, read, and try a ton of things -  which we later discuss and evaluate. We keep the stuff we like and think works, and we toss the stuff that didn't work out so well or line up well with our beliefs.
     This being said, one of the things we do, is to carve out at least 30 minutes a day to just talk and listen to each other. We take this time to find out about and talk about our day, to ask each other questions, to fill each other in on gossip and to just talk about pointless things. If you aren't careful, you can blink and a mass amount of time will have passed and you won't really have "talked" to your partner! Even just a few minutes a day makes the biggest difference.

     While occasionally we disagree, we never do so in public. UNITED FORCE, PEOPLE! (I feel very much that it's WAR out here in this old world! Your husband/wife is your God given war buddy - your partner. You two are supposed to watch each other's back - keeping each other from being shot - not spending your time shooting at each other.) We also do not yell at each other (This part is very difficult for me, I tend to be a yeller. I'm working on it, though.) and we NEVER degrade each other or use cheap shots. (Degrading each other and cheap shots are a super NO-NO. ESPECIALLY IF IT'S A "TENDER" SUBJECT. You're the one that is supposed to know them best, so you'll know those spots.You never throw something at your partner to hurt them when you already know they have a tough time with it.)  We also both feel as if we have a very equal relationship, and we want to keep it that way. There is no one that "wears the pants." This also helps in disagreements. Winning an argument and being in charge isn't worth hurting your best friend. (Your spouse should be your very best friend.)

     Prince Charming works 72 hours a week. (This number doesn't count the time he spends driving to and from work.) Which means that during the week we don't get a lot of quality time together. We carve out a couple hours each day that we make sure to spend together and we call each other at least once while he's at work. (I'm trying not to give out TOO many details of our personal lives since this IS going on the Internet...) Because of these hours, we have carved out one day a week that is dedicated to "us." This day is normally Saturday. Everyone knows that you do not bother us on Saturday; it's our day together. (Prince Charming has a name for this day, but I'll spare you.) It's our day to be lazy, to spend time together, to talk, to sleep in, to watch TV, to not clean the house or wash the laundry...

     Prince Charming had this entire past weekend off from work! So we made it a weekend about us. We were quite lazy. It was amazing.

     Sorry this was all quite ramble-y. Just some things running through my head... Even if you're not married it's never too early (or too late) to start thinking about these things. It's a never-ending learning process.

     It's all about valuing your partner. Do you?